Wednesday, 31 August 2016

Are you still hoping to live life with positive thinking?

Are you still hoping to live life using positive thinking?

Let us see what is positive thinking?

Do you really know what is positive and negative? Please pick up positive and negative words from the list below:

1. Anger          &         Bliss
2. Up               &         Down
3. Life              &         Death

If you are authentic enough, you have surely chosen death as negative and life as positive but positive thinkers know that they should think and choose positive (which also means ignore negative), does that mean death will ignore you?
You may choose to ignore negative but does that mean that negative will also ignore you? 

So why positive thinking books, workshops and seminars are training people to look at only the positive side and indirectly training them to ignore the negative? This is becoming major reason of unhappiness in the followers of positive thinking movement. In a recent study, most of the people attending positive thinking seminars or reading positive thinking self help books were found to be extremely unhappy after few weeks of the workshop. Many of them started to avoid so called negative thinking and felt guilty when they could focus their mind on “positive thinking”.

The irony is people don’t even know what is positive and what is negative because they never have the complete picture. Each one of us has an experience in life where something, which looks very positive, turns out to be the most negative experience of life and vice versa.

I attended a 2 days workshop last weekend called Happiness Practitioner Workshop. It was an eye opener for a positive thinker like me. The best thing I found out in this workshop is that they train people to deal with the so-called negative things. It is very confronting workshop but designed in an experiential and activity based way. They don’t give solution but give us tools to deal with the trash inside us. It gives us the ability and courage to deal with every negative situation in life like failures, emotional trash, and negative emotion handling etc using scientific tools. 

I have never felt so light and empowered in my whole life. I realized how I was living in an avoidance or survival zone my whole life, waiting for things to happen. When things were not happening the way I wanted, I was looking for everyone and any one to blame. Looking back now, it seems I never wanted to get out of these zone. I was so very comfortable in that but Thank God, I attended this workshop. I realized what it means to be in a growth zone and take responsibility of my life. Now, no more running away or avoiding things, TIME IS NOW! LIFE IS NOW! HAPPINESS IS NOW!

Something very beautiful that I learnt there, I want to share:

If you want to be Angry, this should happen but if you want to be at peace, this should happen too. 

If you want to be unpleasant, this should happen but if you want to pleasant, this should happen too.

If you want to be depressed, this should happen but if you want to be happy, this should happen too.

Why is it that only unwanted things are happening at your choice but most wanted things are not happening?

Is your life happening by choice or by chance?

Happiitude – Happy by Choice

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Why we need to learn “Happiness”

Why we need to learn “Happiness”

When we utter the word Happiness, everyone think of it as a state of mind, feeling or an emotion derived from some outside experience but when asked where is happiness, every one points inside. Thanks to Self-help books, people know happiness is an inside job but still everyone is endlessly looking for it outside. So instead of happiness, this basic conflict is causing more confusion and thus more unhappiness in everyone’s life.

If we simply look at happiness, it means that when things happen as one expects or better than expected, one feels happy. The problem is that most of our expectations are unconsciously set and we are not even aware of it. So meeting such expectations all the time is out of question.
The only thing that is in our control is our ability to handle our own self. What we call as self is nothing but set of expectations, beliefs and values that are not even created by us, so we are not even aware of most of these but this is what that is driving our life.

So people have no choice to create their own happiness. Due to this, most of the people today are easily angry, frustrated or irritated. They are constantly under stress and anxiety that is leading to lot of health problems like Blood pressure, cardiac problems, diabetes and all other kind of lifestyle dis-eases.
There is lot of medical evidence to prove that when one is under constant fight or flight state. Due to this, blood start flowing toward arms and legs, so vital organs don’t get enough blood supply that causes all health related problems. This fight and flight is not because of some real external threat but small events of day-to-day life. For example, getting late for work, traffic, being impatient while waiting for elevator etc.

Earlier, this aspect of lives was taken care by religion but it is not happening with the current generations. In fact current generations are the most comfortable and technologically advanced so far but are they the happier ones?

Happiness Practitioner workshop is a 2 days experiential workshop on Science of Happiness which looks at this in a very scientific yet very experiential way. Science and Happiness seems like 2 words from different dimensions, one representing mind and other heart. One represents logic and other emotion; one is based on evidence and other on experience. So Science of Happiness is best of both the worlds.

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